hey guys its molly here for anotherblind girl story time and today, hopefully will be a quick short little video butwe all know how i like to make quick short stories long. so we'll see how thisgoes but today is about my first big girlsschool dance. now going to school dances when you're blind is like a wholedifferent ballgame. now i don't enjoy as
how to ask a guy to a sadie hawkins dance, an adult, as a 22 year old woman: i don'tenjoy going to clubs, i don't enjoy going to bars, i don'tenjoy going places where it's dark and loud because obviously i mean i can'tsee anything. if it was brighter i would at least be able to see some shadowswhich would help but when it's a bar or
club its total darkness, well for me, so ican't even see shadows of anything and it's loud so now i cant hear. now you've taken myvision and my sight, what a joy, so you can see how this wouldnot be an ideal circumstance and i've always been night-blind. i've always beenblind in dark lighting so with school dances it's the same scenario as being at a baror a club for me as an adult: but as a child where i'm even less mature andless able to handle myself and less comfortable, so i didn't go to any schooldances
and this is probably one of the mainreasons why. so i was in grade 7 i was at a new school and it was the octoberhalloween dance so we're only like six to eight weeks into school and it was abrand-new school because it was like a middle / high school so the schoolonly went from grade 7 to 12 so none of us knew each other. so again awkward in general foreverybody because like hey we've all known each other for six weeks let's godance with each other. like ugh in costumes to add to it so already just areally weird situation for all of us to be in. i would have been 12 years old atthe time and my school did like real "big girl dances: now i didn't know many othermiddle schools that actually had
nighttime dances but my school did sothe dance probably started around like i think it went from like 7:30 to 9:30 orseven to ten something around there so it started at nighttime and my other schoolsit had always been just like period 5 before the final bell rings to go homewe're gonna have a school dance like it was never a real dance. this was a realdance. you left school, you got all dolled up for the dance and then your parentshad to drop you back off at school when it was night time for the dance. so even though my school was from grades7-12 it was just a middle school dance so it was only the grade sevens andeights so there was only would have
probably been like maybe, maybe ifeverybody from the grades had come like 300 of us so it wasn't that many peoplebut the few friends that i had made so far i invited to come over to my housebefore the dance so we could all get dressed up in our costumes together,cookies just have a fun girly time and then go to the dance together and myparents, i hand it to them they were amazing parents, they bent over backwardsthey did anything they could to make life easy and comfortable for me to beable to experience all of the things that other kids would have been able toexperience. god help them even if they
weren't like that i would have forcedthem to be like that because i'm not one of those people who would ever let mydisability hold me back, define me, make my life choices for me i'm always like"eh i shouldn't be able to do that but i'm going to do it and this isn't going tobe as comfortable for me or as easy for me as it is for sighted people but i'mgonna do it" that's just always been my personality so they kind of have to belike that. but they've always just been like that naturally themselves as well,which i think you know it kind of goes hand in hand, they're the way they view it contributes to howi view it, the way i view it contributes
to how they view it, you know you get it.so they would always be like "okay molly i think the easiest thing so you don'thave to walk into a dark, loud area alone is for you to bring girls over thehouse prior so you can all get ready together and then we can drop you offtogether, so that you'll, you'll be walking in with people and you don'thave to either be walking alone not knowing where you're going or be haveyour parents walk you in which is the least cool thing ever" so they invited the girls over. there wasi invited three or four girls over, i think it was three, there might have beena fourth girl, and like i said my mom
baked just cookies, we all did eachother's hair and makeup, we got our costumes and i was dressed up like ablue fairy i had blue fairy wings i had a blue bodysuit a little blue tutu andlittle ballet slippers and i was a little fairy and i had like little blueglittery makeup on and it was cute and we go to the dance together and i'dexplained to them prior to the dance you know everybody at school knew i used acane i had already talked to my school about myvision so they all were aware so the girls knew what was up and i told themlook it's cool you don't have to stay with me the wholenight but if one of you leaves
me you must leave me with one of theother girls in this designated group because i don't really know many otherpeople in our grade and i want you to leave me with somebody i'm gonna becomfortable with because i i'm not gonna be able to see, it's gonna be really hardfor me to hear you communicating with me, so i'm really just gonna be like pluggedears, closed eyes it's a really difficult scenario to be in. so i thought theyunderstood and all was good. the first bit of the dance was goingwell, you know it's a little awkward because again like people are coming upand trying to talk to me and i don't even know that they're standing thereand i can't hear them so i'm just kind
of standing there ignoring them so it'snot again not looking like the most friendly when you're trying to meet newfriends but it's fine we're going along things are going alright i'm dancing upa storm with my friends in the middle of that dance floor. ok so i was just watching this videoback cuz whenever i record a video i watch it back to make sure that you knowi'm happy with how it went to walalalala...i don't know what that was. anyways and i realized thati forgot to mention like a pretty big thing for blind people or a lot of blindpeople and again i hate to say like all blind people and make a blanketstatement like that because it's
obviously not true for every blindperson but something that i know is true for myself as a blind person and for alot of my other blind friends is that obviously you you guys understand that imean take away my hearing as a blind person that's the biggest sense i relyon so that is an obvious challenge but then add on top of it that there's a lotof things when it comes to dancing that you look to other people to learn so youknow i grew up dancing and i danced competitively but that was allchoreographed somebody was telling me exactly what to do and when to do it. i know i have rhythm, i know i havetiming, i know i can dance well, i'm not
like an embarrassing awkward dancer buti will often feel embarrassed or awkward dancing in front of people so now ipretty much say i don't dance, like i do not dance ever because i feel very uncomfortable notbeing able to look around at what other people are doing, to be able to see thatlike okay i i fit in i don't look weird right now, i'm not doing somethingawkward especially when those, there's always those songs like i remember wheni was in grade eight with soldier boy that would come on and everybody startsdoing the same dance and if you're blind and you
can't see what everybody else is doingto follow along it feels very uncomfortable so that's definitelyanother thing that adds to the awkwardness of that dance and all otherdancing scenarios for me is like i can't look around at other people and youmight not realize it as a sighted person but you're doing that you're lookingaround you're observing other people dancing, you're making sure that you'redoing the right thing, you're fitting in, what you're doing makes sense or thatnot, everybody else is doing one thing so you should be doing that too, if you feelme so anyways just want to add that little educational tidbit into thisvideo and i don't know where my editor
is going to shove this clip in but thereyou go. and that's when what was it called it's by hin...hinder? maybe i'm just thinking of that cause oftinder? hinder? lips of an angel "[sings] with the lips of an angel." anybody who was like 12 yearsold in 2006 knows what i'm talking about. that was the jam. so thatsong came on and the girl that i was standing in the middle of dance floordancing with got asked to dance by a boy and so she's like "i'm sorry i'm sorry" andlike just abandoned me just ditched me so i'm literally standing there in themiddle of the dance floor surrounded by people
i'm trying to like make friends with andlook cool in front of. just alone surrounded by kids slow dancing andobviously all the other people not slow dancing have made their way to the sideof the room and i'm just standing there lonely in front of everybody surrounded by slow dancing happy couplesand i was like devastated i was so embarrassed "what do i do what do i do what i do" and thenbless his soul a boy comes over halfway through the song "molly do you want to dancewith me?" he was my saving grace that night. i saidyes, we started dancing and then
obviously that meant he had a crush onme and then a few days after the dance i learned that he only asked me to dancebecause he saw the blind girl standing alone in the middle of the dance floorwith surrounded surrounded by happy couples looking scared and alone andembarrassed and wanted to save my butt. he didn't like me he just wanted to save mewhich you know looking back thank you, you did save me but in thatmoment i was crushed i was like "what i thought he liked me" and it's not even likei liked him but you know at that age like he likes me i like him or it's likeyou know you get me you feel me yeah that was that was my first and notmy last but it should have been my last
that i've had multiple other scenarioslike that i should have taken a hit that one but that's why i don't go to barsit's why i don't go to clubs just uncomfortable situations for me to be inif you're blind or visually impaired you probably feel me on this i know definitely other people with rplike all my friends who have rp are like i hate bars i hate night clubsbecause dark and loud, it's like the worst combination for us. so anyways thatwas my awkward school dance experience please comment down below and let meknow what did you dress up as for your own dances at school
do you have any awkward school dancemoments? please share with me your funny
experiences so i feel a little lessalone. thumbs up if you enjoy storytimes, subscribe to join the family if youhaven't already and you want to be updated for the next video and i'll seeyou next time guys [loud squeak from lorry breaking] that's squeaky holy
