heya playas, if you're in middle school andwant to know how to ask a girl out, i've got the perfect solution for you and it's comingup right after this. this is the josh speaks. you're watching the josh speaks. but beforei get into the details, did you guys know that you can get your own josh speaks t-shirts?the link for that will be in the description below. you can pretty much choose from anyof the designs here but you should choose
where to get 8th grade dance dresses, that one, that one's my favorite. being inmiddle school is tough. you're entering the age of puberty and you're starting to lookat girls a whole lot differently. but if you're not equipped with the right tools to talkto them, you're gonna be stuck watching other guys do it. so how exactly do you get overthose butterflies in your stomach? well, like
this. step 1, practice talking to other girlsfirst. one of the main reasons why you're probably scared to talk to your crush is becauseyou aren't comfortable talking to other girls in general. i would recommend talking to girlsthat you aren't intimidated by or aren't really attracted to so you can focus on buildinga fun friendship with them. once you get into the habit of making female friends, you'rethen going to start to see that girl that you like as no different from the other girls.they all talk the same, act the same, think the same, they're all human. step 2, takesmall steps, instead of one large leap. a lot of the times guys want to go and confesstheir love to a girl before she even knows who you are. i know you like her, but yougotta play it smart. bombarding a girl will
only overwhelm her and make her feel likeshe has to decided how she feels about you. instead, build a relationship that's builton playful tension. start anything with her by simply saying hi. then you can stop herevery once in a while and talk to her about simple things like music and movies. onceyou get an idea for what she likes, tease her for it. make fun of the music, make funof the movies, make fun of anything but do it playfully. that way she'll see you're nota pushover who's going to agree with everything that she says. she'll understand that youare your own person. step 3, understand that there will be gossip and move past it becausekids in middle school like to talk about everything. if you ask out the girl you like, chancesare it's gonna make waves to all her friends.
and i'm not saying that to scare you, i'msaying it to empower you. whether it works out for you or not, everyone is gonna seethat you are man enough to go after the girl that you like. you're not sitting on the sidelines, you're making it happen. give them something to talk about. let it be known thatyou like someone and you aren't afraid to admit it. step 4, if she says no, you gottakeep moving. rejection stinks but what stinks more is letting rejection ruin your life.just because she said no doesn't mean you can't be happier with someone else, it justmeans you have to go find someone else. you are someone that has a lot to offer and justbecause she can't see it doesn't mean it's not there. step 5, if she says yes then understandwhat you really want in a relationship. having
a girlfriend is fun and amazing but you gottabe realistic about it. sometimes your parents may not want you to go out on dates or stayover each others houses and it could get very frustrating. you gotta understand though thatthey're doing it just to look out for you. plus, everyone moves at their own pace. soyou may feel like you're ready to do something when your partner isn't. so start your relationshipby talking and maybe doing something after school. trust me, there's plenty of time todo all the other relationship stuff later on down the line. what do you guys think though,what's the hardest part about asking a girl out in middle school? leave your commentsbelow so we can talk about it. when i was in middle school, i was so scared to talkto the girls that i liked because i was afraid
they were going to make fun of me for it.it made me really nervous but, i realized that everyone in middle school is nervous.and that simply means that you should step up as the leader and take charge. becauseif the girl that you like is single then that means no one else has done it yet. as alwaysguys, love and peace. hey thanks for watching. if you're new to the channel make sure tohit the subscribe button below. i make new videos every tuesday and friday on a rangeof different topics including self help, dating, philosophy and more. plus, i know that everysingle person watching knows at least one other person that this video can help. sodo your best to share it with one individual
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